Allan Christian Dahlitz hopes his Confidence Code will help other men unlock their own potential and destroy loneliness, insecurity and limiting beliefs.
The confidence coach faced his own self-esteem struggles from a young age. Being born with microtia – a deformity where the visible ear does not develop correctly – Allan spent many of his formative childhood years feeling as if he was a black sheep among his peers which caused him to struggle to make friends with kids his own age.
After many years of self-reflection and learning psychological tricks and tools to overcome negative thinking, he found his life’s purpose: help others do the same.
“I truly believe that each and every person truly matters in the world. We all have a beautiful gift and message to share with the world to help heal the planet,” Allan said.
“Through deep-diving into ourselves, we can find who we truly are and what we have to offer.
“I want to teach people how to understand our psychology and how we can contradict our thoughts without actions and words. Curiously, many of us make decisions in life which sometimes go against what we feel we want.
“I want to help men realise these patterns and break them.”
Allan put all his learnings into an online mentoring program called The Confidence Code.
The plan is designed to help young men with their own ear deformity or internal struggles overcome low self-esteem and loneliness and build in its place confidence to ultimately reach a place of self-acceptance.
One of Allan’s key beliefs is that it’s okay to be vulnerable because there are people out there that truly want to help people and get their life on track for the better. That is what the program is all about.
Weekly learning modules are devised to discover each person’s limitless potential by overcoming fear and an overwhelming mindset, realising happiness and finding freedom in the way they look at the world.
Everyone who signs up receives access to the online academy, a Facebook community of other people on their own journey of discovery and one-on-one support from Allan though accountability messaging and video calls.
“I created a program that I wish I had during the early stages of feeling like an outcast,” Allan said.
“It would have changed everything for me if I had something like this and that’s exactly why I do this, so other men currently going through can learn to live with purpose and truly experience the curiosity and wonder of the world to its fullest.”
Australian men experiencing mental barriers to success are not unique, and no one is ever alone. One in eight Australian men on average will experience depression and one in five men will experience anxiety at some stage of their lives, according to data from Australian mental health charity Beyond Blue. The rate of each is also higher among people with disabilities.
Over the next 12 months, Allan hopes to grow his online global community through group coaching, in-person retreats and intensives, and workshops.