Everybody needs love. The Temptations sang about it, religions have been founded upon it, and countless studies have proven that our desire to be loved is perhaps one of humanity’s most fundamental needs. We simply cannot live without it.
Pastor, public speaker, and life coach Reverend Kwame Frimpong firmly believes this, too. It is the primary focus of his practice at KF Life Coaching, which is dedicated to empowering relationships and offering hope to couples, individuals, and families.
For more than 25 years, Frimpong has been working with clients, helping them to break down barriers and overcome personal obstacles to improve their relationships and reach whatever “love goal” they seek.
Through his life coaching conferences, workshops, and seminars, Frimpong provides excellent insight into how love so deeply impacts us, delivering hard truths and showing his followers how to foster and maintain deep, healthy relationships. Audiences are moved and soothed in equal turn as Frimpong gently shares wisdom with his signature warmth and humor.
While Frimpong helps foster relationships of all kinds, from friendships to parent-child bonds, many of his clients come to him seeking marriage advice. For these clients, Frimpong aims to dispel the common misconceptions about marriage and build spousal relationships into true partnerships. A few of his necessary truths include:
- You need more than love to make a marriage work
- Your spouse will not change after the wedding
- Being in love doesn’t make marriage easy
- Money doesn’t solve all your problems
- Healthy couples do, in fact, argue
On the back of such guidance, Frimpong’s audience and client base has quickly grown. However, his journey to help others achieve a better quality of life and love didn’t start with life coaching; it began with pastorship and the healing journey past his own childhood trauma.
As a boy growing up in Ghana, West Africa, Frimpong was a child of divorce raised by his grandmother and great-grandmother. He did not even know his father until he was 18 years old, and in the meantime, exclusion from his local community compounded the pain of abandonment by his parents.
This rejection, coupled with the verbal abuse he experienced at the hands of his grandmother, led Frimpong to realize how powerful words could be, and how hurtful the withholding of affection. This understanding would have a significant impact on how he valued his own family and defined for himself what a successful relationship and marriage looks like.
It wasn’t until Frimpong furthered his education and earned a degree as a marriage and family therapist that he redefined his calling. He understood that his ability to help people could reach out to individuals of all backgrounds, growing beyond the four walls of the church. It gave him freedom to present the message of love to humanity in a greater way.
“Ministry was not working for me, plus I found out that the issues we face in our churches are marriage and family issues,” he explains. “I also realized that spirituality alone was not enough to deal with the complex issues people face. So, I decided to continue my education so that I could be equipped to help.”
Frimpong uses his life experiences and the notion that words have the power to shape the guidance and wisdom he provides to others. Sometimes that means weaving in an anecdote here or a biblical example or piece of scripture there. But although his faith is important to him and his journey, it is not at the forefront of his life coaching. He wants to share his message with everyone, across all faiths.
“The job of the marriage life coach is to come alongside your marriage and help you navigate through challenging times,” Frimpong says. “The life coach will help you with the tools and skills to overcome obstacles in your relationship.”
Frimpong’s expertise continues to deepen and acquire nuance through his diligent research and exploration of human nature. Currently, he is pursuing his Ph.D. with a May 2022 graduation date. His next step will be to expand his audience and delve further into other critical relationship hurdles, such as creating parent-child talk materials or emotional tools for pre-couples that are yet to become officially attached.
“l think that most people utilize marital counseling too late,” Frimpong shares. “In my opinion, pre-engagement coaching is critical before entering into marriage. As such, I am putting together a lot of workshop materials to help pre-couples and married couples increase happiness in their marriage.”
For more information on KF Life Coaching’s services for both romantic and non-romantic relationships, visit www.kflifecoaching.com.